Thursday, January 12, 2012

How to Keep Thinking Straight Even When Feeling Confused

Everybody has the right to feel unstable, incapable, and bewildered -- or just plain lost and lonely -- especially when you're young.

It's alright to feel like you don't know which way to turn when you reached an intersection in your life. Left, right, or just go straight forward... but please, not backward. Never backward, or risk never learning a lesson about life.

They say youth is arrogance. Maybe true. Maybe false. When once-a-young and soon-to-be-adult one is standing at the entrance to adulthood, uncertainty almost always warred with anticipation.

Excited? Yes.

Insecured? Definitely.

Admit you're afraid, too. Do not banish fear. It will help you remember to keep cautious.

This is also the perfect time to remember all the golden words of wisdom learned all through your childhood days. Suggestions and advises from parents may not have much weight due to familiarity. And let's face it, most parents tend to impose their will.

More often than not, the young tended to believe in the inspirational quotes by famous people. There's nothing wrong with this. Great thinkers do have a nice way with words.

The quote below may help you to think straight and see the road to future with clear eyes.

"Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you only have one life to live and one chance to do all the things you want to do." - Source Unknown

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

What Are Your Secret Pleasures?

Everyone, I think, has one or two secret pleasures. But why hide them?

Maybe because they make one feel wicked? Lol

Most girls, especially those easy-to-get-chubby gals, love and hate eating.

But who could resist crispily fried chicken! I couldn’t!

But I must be strong-willed. (sigh) Eversince acne decided to grow pimple farms all over my face, I had to avoid eating those juicy, tasty, oh-so-yummy… mmm… fried chicken!

Grrr, I hate chicken!

Those are the exact words that always swirl inside my brain whenever my family eat fried chicken in front of me. I should hate them, too but they have the right to eat what they want…

So I just try my best to ignore the most delicious chow on earth. Whew!

For how long? Only time will tell…

These days, I eat crunchy and crispy fried chickens only in my dreams.

Maybe someday, I will allow myself to eat those goodies again.

For now, I have to resist the temptation – on a weekly basis? Joke! haha

Here’s the reality: a secret bite of fried chicken would always give me pleasure but after a few days, my skin would show a cluster of angry-looking pimples as damning evidence of my weakness.

Should I thank my skin for being so strict? lol

What about you? What is your deepest and darkest pleasure? Please tell us about it!

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Book Review: Working With You is Killing Me

Can I ask you a question? A rather personal... and prodding... question. How many jobs have you loved and have been forced to quit because of something - no, someone - unpalatable to co-exist with in the workplace? 

Well, don't worry. I think, it's the norm even during the recession. Most people would say: "It's not the money, dude! It's for my personal satisfaction and contentment at work."

Gotta point there... You don't want to suffer. It's a waste of time trying to learn liking very unlikeable persons. bla-bla-bla...

But here's another point. Do you enjoy running away? Are you happy to be a quitter?

You cannot run. You cannot suffer. Forever.

But --

You can change your self. You can change your reaction. And you can change your life.

What is it! What is the secret to a happy work life!

It is not a secret. It is simply called communication. You just have to open the two-way communication lines. And leave 'em open all the time.

And this is a must ingredient -- empathy. You should be emphatic to be able to understand (and to fully realize) that other people may be suffering from difficulties, too. Just try to open your eyes at all times. Learn how to look into other people's hearts and you may see their pain.

After reading this book, I have been able to free myself from emotional traps at work. I salute Ms Katherine Crowley for writing such a good book. It helped me a lot. It should help you, too!

And before I end this brief book review, I'd like to say thanks to the wonderful people who let me borrow this book. :)

Related Posts:
Ten Tips for Dealing with Difficult Coworkers
The six types of difficult co-workers
The Impossible Colleague

Sunday, July 18, 2010

3 Simple Ways to Stay Financially Healthy

Heya! I've just been counting my monies and my spendings these past few weeks. Since my course in college is Accountancy, I should be able to balance my personal finance. Luckily, I don't have credit cards and checkbooks. And I don't think I'll ever want any of those for personal use only.

I'll buy what I want when I have the cash money to buy it. Saving certain amount every month (or every week, in my case as a student) is better than paying monthly installments for goods that often manage to look worn down before they're completely paid. Whew!

As a student with a fix allowance and fixed expenditures, I have learned that there are 3 very simple ways to save your neck from getting strangled with debts.

#1: If you have credit card debts, always double or even triple your monthly payments. This advice has been told a million times but still very, very sound. Coming from a credit card non-user, the best tip that I can give - never use plastic if paper is available. Hmm, does it sound wise? What about debit cards? Hmm, again. lol

#2: Take note of every expense you make. Use a small notebook to jot down every thing - fare, drinks, foods, and even candies. I need just 2 columns to balance my meager funds. Since I have no utility bills yet, my expenses are all personal. Tracking helps a lot to have clear understanding during auditing time, especially when the monies are all gone.

#3: Feed your piggy first. I don't like the phrase 'paying myself first' because I tend to put the money into my wallet and I always end up spending it. LOL. Seriously, I use an old tea pot as a hiding place for my 'wish-to-buy' money. Sometimes I receive my school allowance weekly; but oftentimes, it is on a daily basis. I always abide to the '10 percent' saving rule; but I often push it up to 50 to 75 percent. I will eat a heavy breakfast or lunch before leaving home so my only expense would be the transportation.

Beware: scrimping is often followed by a binge. So whenever I have this sudden urge to buy myself a cup of thick and syrupy (and oh-so expensive latte), I wait for at least 3 days before I succumb. I always manage to last that long when I tell myself that fasting will do good for both the pocket and the diet.

These 3 simple tips had worked for me because, after only 2 weeks, I was able to buy the 3 t-shirts that I'd been dreaming about - without asking for a loan from my parents. ;)
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